Ethics

Ethics

18 essays on the hardest ethics decisions -- conscience, complicity, self-determination, and more. Three thinkers disagree on each.


Ethics

What Do You Do When the System You're Part of Is Doing Something Wrong?

Orwell says name it plainly. Arendt says thoughtlessness is how ordinary people participate in terrible things. Havel says you are already living the lie or refusing it.

George OrwellHannah ArendtVaclav HavelConscienceComplicity

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When Is It Right to Choose Yourself Over Your Family?

De Beauvoir says the role was never the whole of you. Confucius says duties have real limits. hooks says love does not require your erasure. Three thinkers on the hardest version.

Simone de BeauvoirConfuciusbell hooksself-determinationduty

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Is It Wrong to Want Something Only for Yourself?

Three thinkers on wanting things for yourself. Russell says self-absorption is where misery begins. Hurston says claiming what you want is not indulgence. Spinoza says first understand the wanting.

Bertrand RussellZora Neale HurstonBaruch Spinozaselfishnessdesire

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When Does Mercy Become Enabling?

Three thinkers on the line between mercy and enabling. Weil says attention is the only real generosity. Douglass says power concedes nothing without demand. Carnegie asks what winning this costs you.

Simone WeilFrederick DouglassDale Carnegiemercyaccountability

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Should Parents Pay for Their Child's Wedding?

Three thinkers on paying for a child's wedding. Carnegie asks what the money builds. Aristotle splits equal treatment from equal outcome. Beck names the wound.

Andrew CarnegieAristotleAaron Beckfamilyfairness

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What Do You Do When You've Benefited From an Injustice You Didn't Create?

Three thinkers on inherited benefit and moral obligation. Weil says attention is the beginning. Le Guin says freedom arrives welded to responsibility. Nietzsche asks who benefits from your guilt.

Simone WeilUrsula K. Le GuinFriedrich Nietzscheresponsibilityprivilege

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When Is It Right to Want More Than You Have?

Three thinkers on desire and enough. Schopenhauer says desire is suffering in disguise. Maslow says you cannot stop yourself. Wollstonecraft says wanting more is a political act.

Arthur SchopenhauerAbraham MaslowMary Wollstonecraftambitioncontentment

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What Do You Do When Doing the Right Thing Would Cost You Everything?

Three thinkers on moral cost and conscience. Kierkegaard says anxiety is freedom's price. Schopenhauer says examine what you're protecting. Tolstoy says your conscience already knows.

Soren KierkegaardArthur SchopenhauerLeo TolstoyIntegritySacrificeConscience

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When Is It Okay to Lie to Someone You Love?

Three thinkers on lying to someone you love. Chekhov asks what gap the lie fills. Dostoevsky says the motive is not what you think. Spinoza says understanding the feeling transforms it.

Anton ChekhovFyodor DostoevskyBaruch SpinozaHonestyCompassionEthics

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Is It Okay to Prioritize Your Mental Health Over Your Responsibilities?

Three thinkers on mental health versus duty. Wollstonecraft says a hollowed self serves no one. Confucius says duty abandonment abandons who you are. Camus says you choose anyway.

Mary WollstonecraftConfuciusAlbert Camusself-careduty

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When Is It Right to Help Someone Who Won't Help Themselves?

Three thinkers on helping those who resist. Rogers says accept the person, not the behavior. Havel says enabling is dishonesty. Weil says attention sees what is actually needed.

Carl RogersVaclav HavelSimone Weilcarecompassion

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Should You Cut Off a Toxic Family Member?

Three thinkers on cutting off family. Winnicott says the wound is old. Hurston says walk away whole. Girard says the pattern will follow you if you do not see it.

D.W. WinnicottZora Neale HurstonRene GirardFamilySelf-Preservation

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What Do You Owe Someone Who Wronged You but Needs Your Help?

Three thinkers disagree about obligation after being wronged. Confucius says relationships have duties. Dostoevsky says suffering creates its own claim. Lorde says your survival matters too.

ConfuciusDostoevskyAudre LordeObligationForgiveness

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When Is It Right to Bend a Rule You Believe In?

Three thinkers disagree about principled compromise. Clausewitz says friction is real. Aristotle says rules exist to serve something deeper. Havel says complicity compounds.

ClausewitzAristotleVaclav Havelintegritycompromise

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When Is It Right to Break a Promise?

Three thinkers on broken promises. Russell says logic decides. Du Bois says justice overrides. Austen says character is what you do when keeping your word costs.

Bertrand RussellW.E.B. Du BoisJane AustenIntegrityCommitment

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Is Loyalty Always a Virtue?

Three thinkers disagree about blind loyalty. Machiavelli asks what the situation requires. Havel asks what you refuse to say. Wollstonecraft asks who benefits.

Niccolo MachiavelliVaclav HavelMary WollstonecraftLoyaltyIntegrityIndependence

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When Is Silence Complicity?

Three thinkers on when to speak out. Orwell says name what you see. Douglass says silence has always served the powerful. Weil says look first, then speak.

George OrwellFrederick DouglassSimone WeilHonestyCourageIntegrity

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Should I Tell the Truth If It Will Hurt Someone?

Three thinkers disagree about honesty and harm. Hannah Arendt defends the truth. Confucius defends the bond. Nietzsche asks what your honesty is really serving.

Hannah ArendtConfuciusFriedrich NietzscheHonestyIntegrityCourage

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