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Notes on deciding well.

Essays on hard decisions, drawn from the thinkers in the Consilium roster.

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Carl Jung Confucius Esther Perel Friedrich Nietzsche Hannah Arendt Henry David Thoreau James Baldwin Joan Didion

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July 2026 · Career

Should I Quit My Job?

Seneca · Henry David Thoreau · Viktor Frankl

Three thinkers disagree about whether to leave. Seneca says the discontent may follow you. Thoreau says the job is quiet desperation. Frankl says ask what it is for.

PurposeCourageChange

July 2026 · Ethics

Should I Tell the Truth If It Will Hurt Someone?

Hannah Arendt · Confucius · Friedrich Nietzsche

Three thinkers disagree about honesty and harm. Hannah Arendt defends the truth. Confucius defends the bond. Nietzsche asks what your honesty is really serving.

HonestyIntegrityCourage

July 2026 · Identity

Am I Living Someone Else's Life?

Carl Jung · James Baldwin · Soren Kierkegaard

Three thinkers disagree about what it means to live a borrowed life. Jung says excavate the mask. Baldwin says face what was assigned. Kierkegaard says stop stalling and leap.

AuthenticitySelf-DiscoveryPurpose

July 2026 · Loss

How Do You Let Go of Someone You Love?

Joan Didion · Marcus Aurelius · Kahlil Gibran

Three thinkers disagree about letting go. Joan Didion says you cannot force it. Marcus Aurelius says it was always on loan. Kahlil Gibran says you never owned it.

Letting GoGriefChange

July 2026 · Relationships

How Do You Know When a Relationship Is Over?

Esther Perel · Rumi · Simone de Beauvoir

Three thinkers disagree about when to leave. Esther Perel asks what died. Rumi says you already know. Simone de Beauvoir says stop pretending you have no choice.

Letting GoCourageChange

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