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On needing a stable home base before taking a big risk:
All of us, from the cradle to the grave, are happiest when life is organized as a series of excursions, long or short, from the secure base provided by our attachment figures.John Bowlby, A Secure Base
On realizing your closest relationships matter more than your career:
Intimate attachments to other human beings are the hub around which a person's life revolves.John Bowlby, A Secure Base
On deciding how much freedom to give your child:
The provision by both parents of a secure base from which a child or adolescent can make sorties into the outside world, and to which he knows he can return, is a vital ingredient of a successful family.John Bowlby, A Secure Base
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On grieving someone you loved deeply:
Loss of a loved person is one of the most intensely painful experiences any human being can suffer.John Bowlby, Attachment and Loss, Volume 3: Loss
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On understanding why you keep seeking out the same kind of person:
Attachment behaviour is conceived as any form of behaviour that results in a person attaining or maintaining proximity to some other clearly identified individual who is conceived as better able to cope with the world.John Bowlby, Attachment and Loss, Volume 1: Attachment
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On tracing your relationship patterns back to your childhood:
There is a strong causal relationship between an individual's experiences with his parents and his later capacity to make affectional bonds.John Bowlby, The Making and Breaking of Affectional Bonds