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Carl Rogers, The founder of person-centered therapy, Rogers discovered a curious paradox in decades of clinical work:, gets quoted everywhere and sourced almost nowhere. The 14 quotes below are different: each one is checked word for word against the cited work, starting with On Becoming a Person, not copied from aggregator sites that pass misattributions along. The source is named under every line, so you can trace each quote back to the page it came from.
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On why self-acceptance comes before change:
The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.Carl Rogers, On Becoming a Person
On hiding your true self to fit in:
What I am is good enough if I would only be it openly.Carl Rogers, On Becoming a Person
On chasing a finished, perfect self:
The good life is a process, not a state of being.Carl Rogers, On Becoming a Person
On trying to fix a partner instead of accepting them:
People are just as wonderful as sunsets if I can let them be.Carl Rogers, On Becoming a Person
On helping someone without trying to fix them:
How can I provide a relationship which this person may use for his own personal growth?Carl Rogers, On Becoming a Person
On trusting someone else's read of their own life:
It is the client who knows what hurts, what directions to go, what problems are crucial, what experiences have been deeply buried.Carl Rogers, On Becoming a Person
On grieving who you used to be before you can move on:
We cannot change, we cannot move away from what we are, until we thoroughly accept what we are.Carl Rogers, On Becoming a Person
Deciding whether to trust your own read on a situation over outside advice:
Experience is, for me, the highest authority.Carl Rogers, On Becoming a Person
Deciding whether to let someone you love grow in a direction you did not choose for them:
The degree to which I can create relationships which facilitate the growth of others as separate persons is a measure of the growth I have achieved in myself.Carl Rogers, On Becoming a Person
Choosing whether to really listen instead of fixing:
When someone really hears you without passing judgment on you, without trying to take responsibility for you, without trying to mold you, it feels damn good.Carl Rogers, On Becoming a Person
Letting go of a fixed plan for who you thought you would be:
Life, at its best, is a flowing, changing process in which nothing is fixed.Carl Rogers, On Becoming a Person
Deciding whether to choose the harder, more honest path:
I have gradually come to one negative conclusion about the good life: it does not seem to be a life for the fainthearted.Carl Rogers, On Becoming a Person
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On staying adaptable in a changing field:
The only person who is educated is the one who has learned how to learn and change.Carl Rogers, Freedom to Learn
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Deciding whether to stay engaged with people despite cynicism about the world:
When I look at the world I am pessimistic, but when I look at people I am optimistic.Carl Rogers, A Way of Being