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Virginia Satir, The pioneering family therapist who saw that a symptom in one person is usually the whole system's pain, gets quoted everywhere and sourced almost nowhere. The 6 quotes below are different: each one is checked word for word against the cited work, starting with Peoplemaking, not copied from aggregator sites that pass misattributions along. The source is named under every line, so you can trace each quote back to the page it came from.
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On whether you are giving your family enough affection:
We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.Virginia Satir, Peoplemaking
On raising kids instead of controlling them:
Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible.Virginia Satir, Peoplemaking
On why family patterns matter beyond the home:
The family is a microcosm. By knowing how to heal the family, I know how to heal the world.Virginia Satir, Peoplemaking
On whether to have the hard conversation:
Communication is to relationships what breath is to life.Virginia Satir, Peoplemaking
On why communication style shapes your whole life:
Once a human being has arrived on this earth, communication is the largest single factor determining what kinds of relationships he makes with others and what happens to him in the world about him.Virginia Satir, Peoplemaking
On loving someone without controlling them:
I want to love you without clutching, appreciate you without judging, join you without invading, invite you without demanding, leave you without guilt, criticize you without blaming, and help you without insulting.Virginia Satir, Peoplemaking