Topic

Attachment

4 essays on attachment from the Consilium journal. Featuring D.W. Winnicott, Arthur Schopenhauer, Rainer Maria Rilke. Each pits three thinkers against one hard question.


Relationships

Why Do I Push People Away?

Three thinkers on why you push people away. Winnicott says the hiding hopes to be found. Schopenhauer says closeness has costs. Rilke says love the distance.

D.W. WinnicottArthur SchopenhauerRainer Maria RilkeAttachmentBoundariesSolitude

Relationships

How Do You Know If You're in Love or Just Attached?

Three thinkers on love versus attachment. Girard asks if desire spiked when threatened. Austen asks if you see them clearly. Schopenhauer says nature is partly responsible.

Rene GirardJane AustenArthur SchopenhauerAttachmentDesireSelf-Knowledge

Relationships

What If You Want to Leave But Can't Survive Being Alone?

Three thinkers on staying out of fear. Bowlby says the need is real. Pascal says you haven't tried. Hurston asks if you know who you are without them.

John BowlbyBlaise PascalZora Neale HurstonAttachmentLoneliness

Loss

What If Letting Go Means Losing Part of Who You Are?

Three thinkers disagree about identity and loss. Thucydides says power defines you. Zhuge Liang says adapt without surrender. Han Feizi says attachment is a liability.

ThucydidesZhuge LiangHan FeiziAttachmentIdentity

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Arthur Schopenhauer Blaise Pascal D.W. Winnicott Han Feizi Jane Austen John Bowlby Rainer Maria Rilke Rene Girard Thucydides Zhuge Liang Zora Neale Hurston Boundaries Desire Identity Loneliness Self-Knowledge Solitude

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