5 essays on boundaries from the Consilium journal. Featuring Erich Fromm, Iris Murdoch, Jane Austen. Each pits three thinkers against one hard question.
Three thinkers on love and excuses. Fromm says you are not seeing the person. Murdoch says attention is love. Austen says the excuse hides something about the person making it.
Three thinkers on why you push people away. Winnicott says the hiding hopes to be found. Schopenhauer says closeness has costs. Rilke says love the distance.
There is no right thing to say. Oliver says stay present. Miller says the wound is older than you. Carnegie asks what winning this argument actually costs.
Three thinkers on selfishness in love. Adler says connection is the point. Klein says guilt is the clue. Le Guin says the self is not a thing you sacrifice.
Three thinkers disagree on forgiving without an apology. Rogers asks what you feel. Lorde asks what your silence cost. Dostoevsky asks what you really want.
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