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Iris Murdoch

3 essays where Iris Murdoch sits on the council. Iris weighs in on boundaries, self-deception, love. Read what Iris would tell you.

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When Do You Stop Making Excuses for Someone You Love?

Three thinkers on love and excuses. Fromm says you are not seeing the person. Murdoch says attention is love. Austen says the excuse hides something about the person making it.

Erich FrommIris MurdochJane Austenboundariesself-deception

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What Do You Do When You Love Someone You Can No Longer Respect?

Three thinkers on loving without respect. Confucius says duty binds. Murdoch asks what you're actually seeing. Dostoevsky asks what you need them to be.

ConfuciusIris MurdochFyodor Dostoevskyloverespect

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Why Do I Keep Falling for the Same Kind of Person?

You have been here before. Murdoch says your ego is building pictures. Skinner says it is conditioning. Follett asks whether you have tried integration.

Iris MurdochMary Parker FollettB.F. Skinnerpatternsself-knowledge

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B.F. Skinner Confucius Erich Fromm Fyodor Dostoevsky Jane Austen Mary Parker Follett boundaries love patterns respect self-deception self-knowledge

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