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Self-Care

Essays on self-care, explored through the Consilium lens.


July 2026 · Relationships

When Should You Put Yourself First in a Relationship?

Alfred Adler · Melanie Klein · Ursula K. Le Guin

Three thinkers on selfishness in love. Adler says connection is the point. Klein says guilt is the clue. Le Guin says the self is not a thing you sacrifice.

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